Why plan your own funeral?


Why plan your own funeral?

Funeral Celebrant Ron Egeberg says the answer is simple, seeso as to give your loved ones peace of mind, medicine at what will be one of their most difficult of times!”

Today it is essential to have a will.  This document clearly instructs your chosen executor how to distribute your assets.  Enduring Powers of Attorney, viagra both Financial and Medical, also give trusted family members or friends the power to act should you become unable to manage your affairs.

This is the same for your funeral.

Whilst it is not something we like to think about, planning your own funeral means taking responsibility for your death.  It also means that your loved ones are given peace of mind.

Losing someone you love is tragic and their death creates an emotionally intense time for those concerned having to come to terms with that person’s passing.

With such emotions running high it is difficult and upsetting for them to have to make funeral arrangements, and are not matters they want to particularly turn their attention to in the first few days of their grieving.

Knowing that you have planned your own funeral in advance therefore gives your family and friends some solace and peace of mind, allowing them to work through their grief and reflect on and celebrate your life.

When you plan your own funeral you are stating your preferences for your farewell.  In the plan you can state what you want done with your remains in terms of whether you want to be buried, cremated or have your body donated to science.

If you choose to be buried you can select your own burial plot or mausoleum (above ground tomb) and whether you would like to be placed in a coffin or casket.  If you would rather be cremated you can choose where your ashes are to be placed or request that they be scattered in accordance with the state’s laws.

Planning your own service will ensure the guests honour and remember you the way you would like them to.

Unfortunately, most funerals are hastily planned after the person has died.  It’s done by family members or friends who are grieving the loss of someone they love, and not knowing how the deceased would like to be farewelled, sadly, adds to their grief.

Like with your will, planning in advance will make sure that your loved ones are aware of your preferences for your funeral.  As you may also be aware there are also prepaid funeral plans available through funeral homes.

How to go about planning for your funeral

You need to leave specific funeral instructions in a document that is separate from your will or trust.

These instructions should include details of whether you:

  • have purchased a burial plot and at which cemetery
  • want to be cremated, and, if so, where you would like your ashes to be stored or disposed of;
  • want a public or private funeral followed by a graveside committal or no committal and where these are to take place
  • a private burial followed by a memorial service and where it is to take place;
  • want a gathering of family and friends after the funeral or memorial service (a wake) and where that is to take place;

Talk to your loved ones about your funeral wishes.

Your discussion with loved ones will go a long way to easing stress and anxiety during a difficult time and provide them with details of the arrangements you would like to take place for your funeral and the disposal of your body.

At the time of your death it is important that you not only have your affairs in order through your will but also have details of your funeral arrangements readily available so as to assist those that will be required to execute the arrangements and create a fitting farewell for you that is in accordance with your wishes and will provide some comfort to loved ones suffering at your passing.

Please go to my website www.brentron.net/celebrant and download a free guide to planning your funeral.

It will guide you through the details you need to provide to ensure your final wishes are known to your loved ones.

You should revisit this from time to time to revise it as circumstances change, treating this as ‘your living funeral plan’.

It is right and fitting to leave this information for the people you love and care for.

Also ensure the executor of your will is advised of your funeral arrangements and has a copy of your funeral plan.

About the Author

Ron Egeberg completed his funeral celebrant training in 2012.  He was also registered as a civil marriage celebrant in that year and is a Justice of the Peace for Victoria.

He is an openly gay man in a committed long-term relationship with his partner Brent, and they live in Ballarat.  Whilst his base is in Ballarat he is prepared to travel as the need requires.

As a Funeral Celebrant,  Ron supports the community, as well as the gay and lesbian community, by offering compassionate and caring services in their time of bereavement.
As well as being highly respected in the Celebrancy field, Ron is also a funeral celebrant trainer with the Academy of Celebrancy, a public speaker and master of ceremonies, he is also a qualified Workplace Trainer and Assessor and a well-known and respected member of the Ballarat community.

Ron is also a Director of Brentron & Partners and brings to his current leadership role an impressive 40 year track-record of managing, developing and implementing creative business strategies and solutions within the arts, cultural tourism, retail, hospitality, events, government and media sectors.

Ron Egeberg JP CMC

Civil Celebrant
m. 0419 314 286
e. ron@brentron.net

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